5 Tips for Making Immediate Change
By Tina Greenbaum, M.Ed, LCSW
Many people think that changing your life means changing jobs, your surroundings, your partner…or any number of other external stressors.
While part of the answers may lie in these factors, discover 5 ways that you can begin to improve your life now. Many folks are burnt out, stuck, and/or stressed out. They don’t know where to begin when life seems so overwhelming. The statement that “we have everything we need within us” is true, but where to start may be elusive.
The Dali Lama says, “All we want is to be happy.” So follow the 5 tips below and begin transforming your life.
1) Acknowledge that you have a problem. Denial is a powerful defense mechanism. Admitting we have a problem means that we might have to do something about it, which frequently keeps us stuck…sometimes, for a very long time.
2) Acknowledge that you have created the problem. This is always the difficult challenge, yet it is the #1 key to freedom. If we admit that we have created the problem, then we are the only ones that have the power to find the solution and change our situation.
3) Name the thoughts and feelings connected to the problem. We can’t solve anything if we can’t name it. Clarity is important. Listen to how you speak to yourself. Notice how your body is feeling in connection with those thoughts. Where are you feeling uncomfortable? What are the sensations that are capturing your attention? Make notes of what you notice.
4) Ask yourself: what’s in my control, what’s out of my control? Being in charge of your life means being “at choice.” It doesn’t mean controlling what others do or say. Recognizing that you can choose how you respond to others is the key to personal
success and good mental health.
5) Make a commitment to be brutally honest with yourself.
When you tell the truth to yourself, solutions become apparent. It’s only when we live in delusion that we end up lost and chasing our tail. I always say that, “Good mental health is not a natural sport, it’s a learned sport.” What we naturally do, is react to situations. To ‘respond’ rather than react, requires skill and practice. When you put in the time and effort to do this kind of work, you become resilient to life’s inevitable ups and downs.
To Your Mastery,
- Posted by Tina Greenbaum
- On 22nd August 2017
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