What Do You Want to Trickle Down?
By Tina Greenbaum, M.Ed, LCSW
I’m sure you heard the saying that “everything comes from the top.” In other words, every family, organization, country is a reflection of the head of that unit. We never have to look very far for whom to praise and whom to blame.
With the advent of social media, we all live in glass houses and are vulnerable to allowing others to perceive us in ways that may or may not reflect our true intentions. And the days of hiding behind layers of gatekeepers are gone, as we can see by the explosion of exposes in the news.
In an article in the online forum, The Leadership Insider (December 2, 2015) Spencer Rascoff, CEO of the Zillow Group, was asked the question, “What is the most important quality a leader should demonstrate?”
And his answer was “authenticity.”
What does it mean to be truly authentic? And how do we get there, given that, for many, we were taught to hide our true selves? Expressing our feelings, speaking up for ourselves, showing emotion were not always safe and frequently not acceptable – especially for men.
The idea of being vulnerable and transparent is enough to make some very strong personalities shiver in their boots. And yet, we are challenged to do so. The culture demands it.
To become an “authentic self,” we must begin with a willingness to self-reflect; to be honest about our strengths and weaknesses, to admit when we are wrong, and to bring to light those unconscious behaviors and patterns that no longer serve us.
This is not an easy task and almost impossible to do alone. You see, the unconscious, by its very nature, is unconscious. These are our “blind spots,” How many times have you seen qualities in others that you just can’t see in yourself?
Who do you have in your corner who will “tell you like it is?” Who will challenge your thinking and encourage you to look in places that never even occurred to you?
Think about the people you love to be around; the ones that you’re drawn to. I guarantee you these folks can laugh at themselves and we would, most likely, call them “authentic.”
As life becomes more complicated and more demands made upon us, the first thing to go is self-care. I propose that working on yourself from the inside out is the best investment you will ever make in your relationships and your business – no matter where you are career.
The trickle-down effect is real. What do you want to parlay to the people beneath you? There are many things in life in which we have little control. The good news about becoming authentic is that it’s all up to you!
- Posted by Tina Greenbaum
- On 10th December 2017
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